I want to be a homemaker. There's is nothing I want more than to fulfill my role as a wife and do the cute things I should be doing. But ya know what? I have to work full time so we can have this cute house we do. And we are barely able to keep it, thanks to this crummy economy and I'm just sick of it. Complaining doesn't do anything to help. I KNOW. But that's how I feel.
I want to get up early and make breakfast for my husband. I want to clean the house during the day (NOT on the freaking weekend, when I should be playing) and have dinner waiting on the table when he gets home. I want to have and raise a family here and I want to be the mom they see every day and who teaches (and disciplines) them at home.
Every family is different, but I don't want to be different. I want to be the cookie-cutter wife (with added reading time, because I can't, and won't, give up my books!) who can do everything without a sweat.
But how the frick do I get to that point? Do I work full-time to get my husband through school so he can get a high-enough paying job to support me staying at home to do these things? Do I have him work full-time, supporting me getting my degree and the high-enough paying job to support him getting his degree (the much longer option) until he can support me staying home to do these things?
Cody and I have been married for a glorious almost-four years. We've gone on a few vacations, purchased two homes and four (or more, probably) cars, raised many chickens, and have loved each other. But we look back on these past almost-four years and we wonder, what have we been up to? We feel like we've just been playing house and working. Spending more than we've made and just hanging out.
The point is, I don't care who caused the economic problems we're having, I just want to find a legitimate work-at-home job that will help me fulfill the role I have dreamed about my whole life. I want to be able to support my husband by taking care of the things I don't have time to currently. I'm not happy with the direction my life is going because I don't know where it's going. I don't see the light at the end of this working-for-rest-of-my-life tunnel.
Isn't there a scam-free way to work from home these days?
I don't know if it would work for you...each person is different...but if I needed to be self employed these are my options; 1)small daycare or preschool 2)photography (weddings bring in good money)
ReplyDeleteI also heard about Jet Blue airlines. You call people, from home,and set up appointments or something. I don't remember exactly. My mom is the one who pointed it out to me.
All I know is it's suppose to pay pretty well and it's not like phone soliciting or anything.
That's great Fe! It really does suck though to have to work full-time, when what you really want is what you can't have at the moment. One of my good friends told me that that was something his mother had always wanted to do, but she had to work full-time (and they had 4 kids under the age of 7) to support her husband while he was going through medical school. He said it took them awhile living without a stable matriarchal support, but it paid off. His dad became a surgeon and his mother stays at home and enjoys cooking, cleaning, shopping, and serving her children when they come home. You have to do what you have to do, but I believe it will work out for you:-)
ReplyDeletei TOTALLY agree! i have no shame in admitting that i want to be the cookie cutter wife as well. the problem is finding that delicate balance of being able to take care of yourself, husband, and kids in every way-including financially. i haven't found that balance yet so if you do, pass along the secret.
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